For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each one of you know how to control his own body in holiness and honor, not in the passion of lust like the Gentiles who do not know God…
1 Thessalonians 4:3-5 ESV
Abstain from every form of evil.
1 Thessalonians 5:22
Sex feels good. It satisfies the flesh. But for the Spirit infused person, sex outside of real, covenant marriage feels fraudulent. It is a cheap and convenient version of what ought to be treated as a holy thing.
Abstain then. Control yourself. Refrain from giving yourself away cheaply. You are not your own. Treat your body as a holy temple over which you have been assigned the sole steward, because this is true.
It may help to busy yourself sometimes. But rest assured, abstaining is a verb. Waiting is an action. Preserving is an effort, and it is an effort worth making.
Of course, we cannot muscle our way into holiness. We are reliant upon the Holy Spirit. So seek and receive his help. Receive his peace.
And brother, remember: we do not get our power from women. We do not flirt with, chase after, and use women for the sake of feeling capable or powerful, because to do so would be a futile endeavor, only good for remaining immature. Rather, we receive our power from God, and from the men he has placed around us.
We are sons of God, and as such, we protect. We provide. We control ourselves, and should we give ourselves to a woman, we do so fully, exclusively, wholly, sacrificially, and faithfully. Because we are men.
Be watchful, stand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong.
1 Corinthians 16:13